Is It Self Sabotage or Perspective?

So let’s say you have this toolbox. This toolbox is going to help you make better choices when it comes to what you eat. My goal here is to give you pro-active tools for that toolbox. Real, practical, action-based steps that can support a healthier you! The bottom line is, I’m not trying to turn you into a “food angel” or a person that only buys the right thing at the right time or is up on every food trend. Our goal in our time together is, that each day, we re-establish health, we solidify regeneration and rejuvenation, we make it a little bit easier to tackle some of the struggles that are a part of life, and we embrace mistakes that let us know we’re human.

I was just on the phone with one of my clients this morning. She was sharing with me that in the last three weeks she’s only got through four days, of each week, of the Fast Metabolism Diet. She starts with Phase 1 and does great, Phase 2 she does incredible, and then Phase 3 she completely falls off the rails. I said look, we need to find a way to make this easier for you. And for her, the solution was changing the rhythm of her week. So we’re actually going to try starting this next week with Phase 3 on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. Then we’ll do Phase 1 on Thursday and Friday and Phase 2 on Saturday and Sunday. Phase 2 is the easiest from an organizational perspective. It’s just protein with tons and tons of vegetables and no oils, recipes like my Spicy Red Pepper Fish with Lemon Garlic Kale or my delicious Turkey Soup.

These are my 3 best strategies I use with clients to help make the shift from self-sabotage to gaining perspective.


One strategy that I use with many of my clients is taking three minutes before bed and filling a piece of paper with all the good things that you’ve done for yourself. Things like: making decisions to go to bed earlier, to wear a warm scarf, or to heat up a neck wrap in the microwave and wrap it around your neck to boost your immune system. Decisions like dry skin brushing, or even enjoying a hot cup of tea during your break at work. Anything that increases blood flow but also nurtures the body as a whole.

Set a timer and write as fast as you can and as many things as you can! My goal is that your page will be full. This is an exercise that I learned when I was going through the brain injury recovery center. I was an outpatient for years, and one of the things that’s really difficult when your going through a process like that, is seeing that baby steps create monumental leaps in progress. It’s really hard though to feel that sense of change when you’re going through the process. It’s hard to sometimes see the forest through the trees.

This is an exercise that made an incredible impact on me and has really been a catalyst for many of my clients. The goal is to do this before you go to bed. The time that I’m always talking about, sleep, where rest and restoration occurs and where the largest part of weight loss occurs. This is the time that’s most important to actually have positive thoughts about yourself.

Remember positive thoughts about food, about yourself, about your environment, and about your experiences, actually stimulate and speed up the metabolism.


The next piece is to change your perspective. I’m not talking as simple as “the glass is half full or half empty”, meaning, well at least I didn’t eat the whole chocolate cake and it was just a piece. I’m actually looking at your perspective when you look at your plate, before you eat. Ask yourself, what tangible things on the plate will make a difference in my body. Even if it’s cheesecake, but you’ve selected an organic one, you can say, look there is no BHT in this product and there are no hormones, and that is going to make a positive impact on my body! Or if it’s an incredible bowl of our favorite FMD Turkey Chili, I want you to look at the fact that you’ve added cilantro or parsley, because those help to support the pancreas to stabilize the blood sugar. Be proud of yourself for every bite you’ve taken! Maybe the fact that you’ve diced up onions or added one extra vegetable that hasn’t even been included in the recipe. Or that you had a ginormous glass of water before you ate!

The perspective and the paradigm shift is looking. Really opening your eyes, smelling, tasting, and using all of your senses to put into perspective what it is you’re actually putting into your body.


And the third thing when we’re contemplating self-sabotage is to find out what we’re really looking for. It’s to look for patterns. If you notice that 5 o’clock is your bewitching hour, or that right before bed the refrigerator calls you like nobody’s business, or that you’re regularly skipping breakfast, take a week and just write everything down. I mean a full seven days of writing it all down. It takes that much time to dive deep and really look at what’s going on. Don’t make any alterations or corrections, just journal for a week. Then sit down with a friend, a co-worker, or someone that you know who has your best interest at heart. Sit with them and do what I call a blameless post-mortem. Meaning together discuss and look for your “danger zones” or the areas that you need to implement more support!

In the next blog, I’m going to talk about sharpening your sword. What you’re going to do to make sure that you’re prepared to eliminate the pitfalls.

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